Monday, January 10, 2011

Why Do People Become Homeless

I have recently rewritten this blog post, hopefully with more clarity.   You can find it at
http://thehomelessguy.blogspot.com/2013/04/why-do-people-become-homeless-2013.html

There is only one path to homelessness, but there are many reasons why it happens. And the differences in those reasons are very important, they are more important than the cause itself.

The Difference between How and Why

Let me digress for just a moment here. The difference between "how" a person became homeless, and "why" they became homeless is important to consider. Often, people confuse those two words, they use them interchangeably. I think this is perhaps the biggest reason why people become confused about homelessness, about why it exists, and what can or should be done about it. In short, "how" describes only the process of becoming homeless, the steps taken. "Why" is what we consider when determining the reasons something happened, why a person ended up on that path to homelessness.

Though it is important to know how people become homeless, the true cause of homelessness is found by asking why they are homeless. Understanding the difference between how and why people become homeless directly effects the process of helping people overcome homelessness. If people only focus on the "how," and disregard the "why," they will fail every time, at ending homelessness.

Homelessness is caused by a lack of money

Every single person who becomes homeless does so the same way, they all follow the same basic path. They all ended up in a situation where they didn't have enough money to pay for a place to live. Either they lost a job, spent all the money they had, or they left a home where someone else was paying the bills. That's "how" they all become homeless.

Two types of homeless people

In answering the question, "why" they become homeless, why they ended up with a lack of money, at this point we find two distinguishable types of homeless people. There are those people who become homeless only because of financial mismanagement. How they organized their finances was insufficient to deal with necessities required to maintain a home. They made a few incorrect decisions with their money causing them to have inadequate funds to pay for housing. For this group, it is that simple. And for them, the solution to end their homelessness is equally as simple. All they need do is correct their financial situation and in a very short amount of time, they will find themselves back in a home. For these people, the "how" and the "why" of their homelessness is, for the most part, one and the same. Their homeless experience lasts a very short time - from just a day or two, to a few months at the most. Often, these people fix their homeless situation by themselves, or with very little assistance. The majority of people who become homeless fall into this category.

All other homeless people fall into a separate category. These people also experience a financial crisis, but for different reasons. Their decision making processes are impaired by extenuating circumstances, such as mental illness, or addictions. It is important to note that a person does not have to be completely crazy to have a mental health condition that interferes with their decision making process. Depression or anxiety, or other brain function differences, such as Asperger's Syndrome, can impair their abilities and cause them to become homeless. All of the people in this category require treatment specific to their condition before they can successfully leave homelessness. This treatment involves teaching coping skills so that these people can effectively control their condition and prevent it from interfering with their decision making processes. The amount of time it takes for these people to leave homelessness depends on the severity of their condition and the quality of treatment they receive. There are fewer people becoming homeless this way, but because very few services are available to them, their homelessness can last a long time. Many homeless people die while still homeless and awaiting help.

With homelessness, we have one "how" and two "whys."

How people homeless is always due to financial mismanagement. Why people people become homeless is due to either improper decision making only, or improper decision making due to conditions that interfere with a person's decision making process.

It is of the utmost importance that this distinction between types of homeless people be made. Confusing the two types will make solving homelessness more difficult. It is wrong to assume that all homeless people have a mental health condition or addiction problem. Many people will not hire a homeless person or give them financial assistance because of this assumption and may unnecessarily extend a person's homelessness. At the same time, it would be a mistake to give a job, or money, to a homeless person who has a mental health condition or addiction because they may not be able to handle those responsibilities successfully. Not only is it a waste of resources, it could lead to a worsening of their condition. Before things like a job, or money, are given to a person with those extenuating circumstances, it is important to first determine if they have received proper treatment and have developed adequate coping skills. Know also that such assistance to this type of homeless person may have only a limited effect, easing their homelessness, but not curing it outright.

44 comments:

  1. I guess I fall into that first category. I was living in a home when we all got kicked out. I didn't have a job at the time and things have been tough since then.

    When I look back at my life, I tend to peer a little deeper into my cause of homelessness. Though the "how" was me not having a job when we lost our house, the why is a very different story.

    When I was younger, I was never equipped with a proper foundation that would help me create a better future for myself. Since I was rebellious and always in trouble, I never bothered trying to ask the right questions. I always thought my life would get better on it's own.

    It goes even deeper than that but I want to make this short. I became homeless because I was unprepared. I remain homeless because I had a very rough past and most people can not look past that when I go to them in an attempt to get my life back on track.

    Thank you for this post.

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  2. I think the major causes that someone become homeless is lack of money or lost their job

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    1. Today the reasons are most likely as you said lack of money and job loss. I lost my apartment due to my unemployment decreasing to 76.00 every two weeks. I struggled when I had a job. Juggled everything, skipping bills one month to pay more important ones. I was late and struggling with the rent and when I was told I was on the wrong program and unemployment benefits were slashed, I knew that I had to move. While I'm not on the street, I was prepared to sleep in the car at a rest stop. I am living in unstable housing with my daughters in a small apartment. I'm thankful and hopeful and I am determined to do something to aid in the plight of homelessness.

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  3. When the economy is really bad, like it is now. yes. But in my life time it's never been this bad, and so other factors applied.

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  4. Sometime people need a boost up, because without it, you'll never solve your homelessness. Family, a good friend, a mentor, maybe even someone at a church may give you some resources, not always financial, to attempt to improve your situation. Can't get a job without living somewhere, people can't reach you without a phone, you can't get to work without transportation, all valid reasons for blocking your path in improving your life. Exchanging room and board for chores, lawn care, babysitting, cooking, cleaning, there are so many people too busy for these responsibilities that may be looking for someone to help in these areas, and this givves you the boost up. Time consuming, yes, to find these positions. but staying visible at local coffee shops, gas stations, anywhere neighbors gather at some point in the day, may give the 'potential' for this opportunity.

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  5. man this is so sad we who have money and wealth should help out these people even if they arent the same race or colour or even if they are not family we should do something anout it because they are humans as well just like us who are sleeping in comfortable beds, who are eating deliciously warm food who are warm every night have nice clothes and who the money to pay for our childrens medicine or medical bill while a child is probably dieing all over the world probably every minute if your not gonna do anything about your just plain greedy and are heartless :)

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    1. ok, I agree to some extent, however how do you know someone is safe. What if their mental illness (if they have one) or situation causes them to do something to you or your family or children. ? I can give someone money or food but not necessarily feel comfortable (safety wise) bringing them home with me--or putting them in my car. I am thinking of one woman in particular who has asked several different times for money for food at Kroger. I have given her some but another time I said I didn't have any but had food and she would not take it. Ok, was she lieing? Did she want the money for her possible addiction? Also, have you ever read the Glass Castle--pretty hard book to swallow when you read that many want to be homeless and stay in situation they are in b/c of bad decision making. Then they end up living off others that are in a better place. I know each person is different and that most aren't using money for drugs and such. I really do have a heart, I am just trying to figure out sometimes what more I can do and who I can trust--it just depends on the individual homeless person I guess. B/C I do know, To whom much is given, much is required. If I could just help one of those people I see everyday. I just need to know where to start--(esp if I am pretty sure the person has a mental illness) How do you even begin. hmmmm

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    2. I am have recently lost my home due to lack of job and the economy. I moved quickly to an extended stay. Through this ordeal I see how people move in stages from being part of society to homeless. I found out this week that there have been people living in extended stay and hotels for the last 3-5 years due to the economy. Help them out with laundry soap and free books and magazines to keep them motivated. I then had to move stuff into storage and found out the people there are now homeless and only have a storage locker - so if there is anyone paying off christmas layaways to help - why not go to a storage facility and ask if you could pay a months storage for a homeless person? (it is all they have left). Lastly - why can't some of the wealthier individuals buy foreclosed homes and let families live in them for free for a year but have them help rehab other homes and help with child care - this could be their jobs?
      Sad in extended stay....

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    3. Excellent comments, and helpful!

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  6. Homelessness is on the rise due to the fact that the unfortunate of our society who did not for whatever reason acquire a higher education do not receive an even partially life-sustaining wage and that is wrong!

    Notwithstanding, welfare programs and educational programs for these people have been cut from the budget in the interest of paying for wars and corporation theft.

    I know, I have been and soon again will be among them but a movement is rising in America and the time for us to rise up against the government who would toss us to the curb is upon us.

    It is my intention to rally the homeless, the abused, the poverty stricken single parents, our abandoned veterans, and the forgotten to occupy everywhere NOW. Tent cities located in the heart of all the financial districts of this nation will rise up with the multitudes of the dissatisfied. Please spread the word so that those without a home already might find comfort among us as we raise our voices to a level that will never be forgotten!

    Please check out my blog at

    http://whoarethe99percent.blogspot.com/2011/10/held-hostage.html

    It is just in the beginning stages and I welcome anyone and everyone to comment and contribute.

    We are the 99%!

    Occupy Everywhere!

    A media blackout is trying to prevent everyone from knowing about this movement, please search "occupy wall street" to find out more and by all means, SPREAD THE WORD! We will be our own media!

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  7. In less than a week I will be homeless. I currently have no job, yet I have a degree. I either get "all positions are filled" or "I am over qualified" for minimum wage positions. Even those don't pay enough. I am re-enrolling in college but that is 3 months away, and my college doesn't have student housing. So unless I get a job offer (have had no interviews yet) in the next week I don't know what I will do.

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  8. I too am one week away from being homeless. I am searching for a job so hard. I have made decent money in my life. The last 4 jobs that I have had lasted no more than 12 months. Every company went out of business, cut back on employees or sold the business unit that I worked in. My last job is a prime example. I left a lower paying wage job, $24k a year, not enough to support my family. The new job payed $55k, still less than what I made when I was 10 years younger. Just 4 months into the new job the corporation consolidated in business and gave me 2 months severance. I survived with that in little savings for six months. Now it is all gone. I have no place to go. How do I tell my kids we have no place to live? I could live on my sisters couch, but she is going through a divorce and her life is in turmoil. IDK where to go. A friends couch for a couple weeks. No job or prospects.

    Do I turn to begging to prospective employers and show them what I have dpne in the past? My credit is horrible. For many years I was an 800 credit score and I was saving over $15k per year. After working for so many companies in a short time people will not hire me.

    My step=mom (your not living with us..) says " you are so talented and good at what you do. You will get a job. Your dad was always been successful. I have faith in you. good luck".

    I am tired and broken down from overqualified. Heck, I even had an anonymous text once "we need to hire" me " who is this?" "I need a job and here are my qualifications..." anonymous "sorry your overqualified"" WTF

    Ready to give uo.

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    1. I can totally relate. I have a B.A in accounting, have passed the CPA exam. I have been out of work for three years. I have been on over 50 job interviews. On top of this I had two rotator cuff surgeries in 2010 and very limited use of my right arm. It hurts to type this. I have applied for SSDI and been denied twice. I am waiting for a hearing. My dad keeps telling me "you have a brain and talents, you should be able to get some kind of job". My mom lives in a $4,000/month retirement community. I just got my last unemployment check and I am looking at living in my car by April. Thank God I am getting a tax refund. This will allow me to stay in my apartment one more month. None of my friends have offered housing, even though most of them are single and have three bedroom homes. I just don't understand. I have gone out of my way to help other people all my life and now this is what I get.

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  9. My son, who is mentally ill, has enough money (SSI) to rent a room, and we have been willing to manage his money for him, and add a little to make it all add up, so I'd say he does not fall under your rule.

    In fact I have found him two separate living situations, one supported, one just an SRO room (but it was a nice one), and he got thrown out of both of them for non-financial reasons, to wit, he turned destructive and dangerous.

    It's not money.

    One cannot "receive proper treatment" or learn "appropriate coping skills" unless one wants to do that. He doesn't. He's actually perfectly happy living in the streets, as happy as anyone else.

    I'm at a loss.

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    1. Because, Joaquin, you keep bailing him out. It is money. I am certain you took him to get his SSI. Without his SSI, i.e., "money", he would be homeless. Unless you pay his rent to or find him other separate living situations-again. That is why. You are deluding yourself if you truly believe he is "actually perfectly happy living in the streets, as happy as anyone else."

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  10. You admit that your son is mentally ill. But you don't think that him being "perfectly happy living in the streets" isn't due to his mental illness? I think you're looking for an excuse to not care. There was a time when caring people would have a family member in this condition committed to an institution. Now they just let them languish on the streets. Sad.

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  11. If your gonna be homeless and your looking for a job don't be picky about the job. Take whatever you can get, and never never give up. You fall down and then you pick yourself up again. I have had multiple surgeries and I feel a lot of pain but I am gonna try and work. I don't know if I will be a failure because of my condition but atleast I can always know that I tried my best to succeed in life. I am about to loose everything I have. My home, and my vehicle could be lost if this job doesn't pan out but whatever happens I will know that this is what plan god had for me for some reason. And if it doesn't work-out than I will move on to figure out something else that might work. I am just saying to evryone out their that you need to try your honest to god best cuz that's all we as people can do.

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  12. That's great Anonymous, if you do ever become homeless you'll know that it was only due to financial issues and nothing else. You seem healthy, mentally, and that is a blessing.

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  13. I was on the streets as a teenage runaway. What is written here is pretty true, except that it doesn't explain the homeless youth situation. Homeless youth face different challenges as they are not able to work and have to constantly hide themselves from the police (if runaways) or from different service providers so that they don't end up in foster care or in jail.

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  14. I agree with the last comment. I was homeless through high school and college. I looked 10 when I was 18, so getting a job was really tough. Then in college i did not make enough to do both tuition and rent. By that time, I had learned enough that I could live (illegally) in the library.

    You also have to hide from the pimps, the druggies, the folks bigger than you are. I survived only because I made myself invaluable to the right people-I could fill out the forms and get someone SSI and stuff like that, so I bought my protection.

    So, a third category perhaps is needed for youth.

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  15. As of Feb 1, I will become homeless, by choice - although I guess one could make the argument that I'm in the first category of "why"... budgeting for decent housing is, at the same time, financially irresponsible.
    For the past year, my leased apartment, at $1100 per month, takes more than half my net pay, not including necessary utilities (another $160/m) . Every less expensive placeI have found is bug-infested or in high-crime areas, and requires a 12-m lease. My employment situation is highly unstable and even if I found a decent affordable place, I cannot in good conscience commit to another lease. I'm slowly getting into more and more debt each month, having to put necessities like medical copays, medications ($235/m), car repairs on credit cards. Still, I'm one of the lucky ones - I have a car (paid for, $200/m in gas, $75 in insurance), a job, and even though I can't afford the $3000/yr deductible and $50 copays for routine care, I have health insurance ($300/m premiums).
    Yes, many people live successfully on the amount of money I earn, but everyone I know has at least two incomes in their household; I do not. I am a 60-year old grandmother who just can't afford decent housing on my salary. I'd rather be in my car than in the apartments I can afford.
    Thanks so much to all who share survival tips, and to those of you brave enough to share your circumstances... makes me feel a tiny bit less like a pariah.

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    1. How about sharing an apartment or renting a room in a house. I don't know where you live, but this would be a safer alternative probably than living in your car.

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  16. Sometimes you have to voice your need to your friends and family before they are moved enough to do anything about it. Don't just expect that others in your life will know how to respond to your particular circumstances. You have to ask for help when you need it. You can't assume people will offer help when you tell them you're having a rough time of it.

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  17. I have an X-Husband that is homeless, and I'd like to help him help himself. I know his family has tried in the past, but years of abuse of drugs and alcohol has made his mind, not so quick and sometimes paranoid. He states he is "sober", but I do not know for sure, he does get a check SSI, but it is not much maybe 900. mo. I am trying to figure out how I can help him out.

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  18. Being that you are an "X" probably makes you the least likely candidate for helping him. There would be too much emotion between the two of you, to be able to do what's right for him.

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  19. Oh Dear. It really troubles me when people claim that all or most homeless people brought their misery on themselves by bad choices. That comes from Calvinism, the belief that poverty is evidence of and the consequence of personal sin and failure. Thus church folks don't help homeless persons because "God" wants them to suffer for their sins so they will "learn" to do better. I and my younger siblings became homeless as minor children because my father married a woman who didn't want children. The state wouldn't help us because our rich father had custody, so we had to survive by our wits on the streets of Nashville. My sister overcame this trial by earning a Master's degree. But, she got hit by a car, damaging her brain. With no supportive family and the mind of a child, she was indigent until she died in a boarding house from the effects of malnutrition. State government budget cuts caused her to have no help. My brother earned his MBA, became an Air Force Officer, later a Post Office manager, when suddenly the effects of PTSD from severe childhood abuse paralyzed him, so he and his disabled wife and child are indigent. I worked 34 years for state government (3 years before that as a live in maid as a homeless teenager) and had my job cut due to gov. budget cuts and retaliation for reporting theft of state funds by a high level state manager. I'm facing homelessness again. My mother was homeless due to congenital schizophrenia and the shut down of Central State Hosp. We live in an unjust world full of cruel heartless people. When Jesus said:"I was homeless, I was hungry, I was in prison.." He did not add "because I mismanaged My money." Please stop accusing victims of oppression and misfortune of personal failure. There are many complex causes of homelessness.

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  20. Now this I like. And no, I am not religious.

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  21. Yes indeed, lack of money leads to homelessness. Many reasons explain lack of money. Recently I joined the workforce in the effort to cut homelessness. I encounter different reasons; no two cases are exactly the same. It is clear to me, we do not have a shortage of money, as a matter of fact we may have too much of it. However, we also deal with greed and hubris. The most kind person is not nearly as loving as Jesus. Some regard giving a duty while others treat giving as a big mistake as each person should fend for themselves. Thanks for a great article.

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  22. Nice post but you never mentioned those that are homeless by choice, Some homeless are the idealist bunch that just got tired of being part of society and chose to live homeless.

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  23. @Skilo - Those people aren't really homeless. They have a home to go to when and if they decide to go. Just because a person inhabits the same places and does the same things as homeless people, does not necessarily make them homeless. Those people are just tourists. Going on an African Safari doesn't make you African - so neither does living among the homeless make you homeless.

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  24. Besides, those people who want to bail on society 'cause they got tired of being a part" of it, quickly return to society once they see for themselves that homelessness is a much worse existence. Those who stay homeless are those with mental health issues, who couldn't leave homelessness without some help. Sure some homeless people say they want to be homeless, but if you ask enough of the right questions, you find out that they are only saying that out of spite.

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  25. Thank you for the article! I am over 55, am still in my rental home of 725 per month in Traverse City MI. My hubs had rotor cuff surgery in January, went back to work in July and boom, he was terminated. He is 59, and the economic climate here is very disturbing. People just look the other way at homeless here, like they do not exist. I am facing it too, and if I do not get a job within two weeks, I will have the landlady give me an "eviction notice" so that I am able to at least apply for assistance at the local DHS. Have been actively looking, combing every job site daily, and I did finally get an interview with a start up communications group, 90 people applying for 1 position. It is down to myself and the other candidate now. Will also lose car, credit is shot, and it is not as easy as some think, well, just get a job and everything will be ok!!!! Not the picture, so you need to have the category of aging seniors with no where to go either.

    If I have to, I am going to dress up in a business suit, run off a couple hundred copies of my resume, add another page for MY STORY, and park my car at the mall or anywhere there is high foot traffic and be HEARD!!!! This is crazy, that folks that WANT a freaking job CANNOT GET ONE!!!! The possibility of living in the street is very FRIGHTENING and as a poster commented, no$$$$=no car, gas, = less than nothing. How are you going to get to the interview, be clean, looking refreshed, and be able to present yourself professionally is beyond my comprehension. This town has many dirty secrets, and because of highly touted Sleeping Bear Dunes, they DO NOT WANT THE HOMELESS TO BE SEEN or HEARD!!! Can't miss all the money coming in from the tourists!!! Hell, they cannot even fix the roads, bad urban planning, not even close to affordable housing, and I can't even get a front desk job at one of the MANY hotels, they hire people from Jamaica every summer (no offense here) but you may ask yourself why, when there people of all ages here needing work. I visit a site called Washington Watch, hr bill 589, and that was the go to board for all unemployed, underemployed, you name it. Many have CHECKED OUT as when you do not have hope, for any good outcome, why torture yourself anymore? I cannot give up yet, but I am pretty close to it!

    So, every story is different, we have sold everything of value, I even went thru stage 2 bc, made it back to the world and now I have to face these fears, because when I had cancer, I just rode it out, and gradually came back to health after 47 radiations, chemos, and all the drugs. I did not feel the DESPAIR I feel now.

    Thank you again, my last decent job was managing a pay day loan company, and they downsized, I was making about 15 an hour, well they cleaned house and 8.50 was the new starting wage...

    SHOCKING, Michael Moore lives in Glen Arbor over here, no public beaches there, only the super uber who I do not even think this problem is going on right in their own community!!! Now that would be a film worth seeing, how Traverse City MI hides all the homeless.

    Thanks again for your site, must go do some laundry and cruise all the job sites.

    To all the homeless, soon to be homeless, I think and do as much as I can each day, we now have folks in the streets with their signs, and I think you can get a ticket or get arrested for being a vagrent, something like that, they sure need customers for the jails, BS counseling programs, and cops hide in the bushes to catch speeders...just crazy I tell you...

    Never ever think that it could not happen to you....good day to all!!!!

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  26. I am homeless because I choose to be. I used to work, I used to drive, I used to have money, but I gave it all away willingly. I travel across the land and eat wild foods that I find, make my own medicines out of wild plants, I eat handout by generous people, I eat fresh foods that have been discarded by businesses. And churches help me out ever so much. I volunteer to help them with their services andnever ask for anything in return. I sleep in parks, I house set, I even stay with family!
    I became sick of our Babylon like ways here in our country so I decided to opt out and live like the natives. Like Jesus. Like Buddha. Ascetically, and at peace with myself. Nature provides for me. The good will of others provides for me. It can you as well.

    “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
    -Matthew 6:28-34-

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  27. As I have said before, there are people who choose to live among the homeless, but that does not make them homeless. If you have a place you can go, if you have the means to not be homeless, and yet call yourself homeless, then you are just being dishonest.

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  28. Yeah sometimes it's mental health issues. I live visit to visit, to social welfare, knowing full well one day it will stop and one of these weeks very soon. My anxiety problems will win in the end. I'm much less afraid of being homeless and by myself til the end of my days, than I am to be around people and healthy. This entire world is crooked, teaching us to be farsely independent and not ask for help with he risk you're labelled a socialist/communist. I say bring in voluntary legal euthanasia for people like me. It'll save the government millions. It beats being threatened and bullied by those that feed you, of giving no more.

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  29. I know someone who will be homeless in about 3 months. He took early "retirement" at age 47, way too young, from a very secure job he could still be doing. After 20 years of service, he received a lump sum buyout plus his savings of $247K. Dumb move. Now he regrets leaving that job. Now, 14 years later, he has $4,500.00 left. For the past 9, yes, 9 years, I have told him he will run out of money if he doesn't get some income to at least cover his fixed expenses coming in via work. Right now, he is very depressed, looks horrible, smells bad and, in reality, is not presentable for employment. He refuses to get food stamps or apply for Section 8 housing. He is single, has no relatives. He needs help for the depression, but he refuses to go to a doctor. He has full medical insurance from his previous employer. So that is not an issue. In June, 2013, he will qualify for social security. Age 62, $1,100.00 per month. He will be homeless before that kicks in. I have told him he needs to find a room to rent for about half of what he pays in apartment rent right now. It is doable, but he doesn't want to live with anyone. No, he will live with other homeless on the street, instead. ... For 9 years, I have told him I can see in the far distance a homeless train coming down the tracks. That train has been getting closer and closer. Now, by, early 2013, that homeless train will run him over.

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    1. How is your friend now? How does he respond to your advice?

      Jesus. This hits very close to home for me.

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  30. Mental Illness is insidious. It would certainly be better if we got back to the days when family, or a judge could have someone committed to a hospital. when a person is suffering from mental illness, they are not in their right mind to make the proper decisions for themselves. Someone else has to do it for them, or they do end up homeless. Very sad, indeed. Having compassion on our fellow man is key to ending homelessness. You know, if you witness a car accident, but leave and do not render aid, you could be found guilty of a crime. It should be the same for other situations too.

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  31. Wrong Wrong Wrong, obviously you have never been homeless, some of us end up that way not due to finacial ,but due to the greed of others and society in general. I dont have any vices or addictions, I am a single Dad, 58 years of age raising my diabled 12 year old daughter. When it was aparrent that my child needed special care I had to quit my job to look after her full time. The Australia goverment give me just over $1000 a fortnight, however over the last 4 years my rent has climbed to $700 a fortnight. I am staring at the fact my daughter may need to go in to care as noone wants to help at all. Ive been on the waiting list for public housing for the last 6 years, and yet we are housing all the illegals flooding in to our country - So the "homeless" shouldnt be placed into the "one how or two whys" when there is other factors beyond their control happening. THIS IS NOT THE AUSTRALIA I GREW UP IN

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  32. im just 13 i have really never exspriance homlessness i hope i never do i sounds like a very hard life and mostly today lack of money and a job are the most typical reason see today

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  33. I lost the want to, want to be part of society. I witnessed the economy falling apart because I grew up working. I never had any friends and my family was scarce to none. I became homeless four years ago when I refused to text my supervisor at Walmart. I was previously working as a cart pusher. I was one of the best and management soon realized that I was worth two guys. So, they always shorted me when I was on shift. For example, from 6:00 am until 2:00 pm there would normally be three cart pushers. However, if it was my shift they would only staff two people and I was even told it was because I was such a good worker. Then my supervisor started texting me. She started asking to specific questions. I told her to stop texting me. Then everyday she hounded me on got on my case. She constantly was looking for any mistakes that I did and if I did make a mistake she'd actually yell. Her attitude towards me change from friendly to ugh! I hate you! type of attitude. Then she started talking to other assistant managers and soon my hours went from 39 hours a week to 5 hours a week. Then I had to move out of my place into my car which then I parked my car at Walmart and lived out of my car in 15 degree weather. I couldn't find assistance in relativity to time. so, I decided to move and go to different states. I then realized how bad our economy and over all morale towards each other really was and is. I ended up learning about the law and Americas society's in which they govern. I am not homeless because of financial inadequacies on my part. i can easily manage my own money. The thing I can't manage is society and their rules. The societies we have are disgusting. There is no freedom in a democracy anymore. I even ended up working in law enforcement at which point I was appalled as well as disgusted at how much our federal government not only abuses power but then recklessly spends money. homelessness as well as suicide is at an all time. So, in contrast people become homeless for all sorts of reasons. In the end you have to ask yourself "whats my reward for working?"

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  34. My ex is homeless because of a complex number of reasons and I fear he may die in this condition, but I also fear fear for mine and my child's safety in trying to help him.

    (The Backstory)
    I must sound like such a fearful person, but before this relationship I was pretty strong, stable in my beliefs and ways and had an answer for everything.

    I'm a US citizen born and raised for one, I have a BA and was working towards my MA, and if it weren't for my friends and family I too would be homeless with my child.

    He on the other hand is...
    Not a US citizen, he is a legal resident. Although he too is college educated and speaks english, he is a foreigner who faces that as a barrier to our system. He has no REAL friends (or as he says) no family.

    If it were not for his abusive ways we might have both had a brighter future as a family-well I was hoping anyways. I believe he was abusive because of his abusive past along with mental illness(PTSD being one).

    He has had problems in the past with drugs, and when I met him he was a smoker and drinker-and did pot. Though at the time they were not a problem-as time went on and we progressed they suddenly became an issue for me because we brought a child into this world. The fighting and abuse escalated to the point where I fled fearing for my safety numerous times but moved away from him in the end twice.

    This second time leaving him again in the midst of his joblessness-again I feared for him, but I feared more for myself and my child. I sacrificed everything for a second chance, we did counseling I drained any type of savings we had for our child. In the end I left my job, school, our home and him. He was so mentally-ill he did not see the problem or couldn't get past the barriers.

    (His Homelessness)
    Now he's on the streets, sometimes at a hostel, if he can pick up extra-work, and he calls asking for money mostly or to complain about his life. When I try to give him solutions it often ends up with us fighting.

    By giving him money I am enabling him to continue to ask money from me and it possibly might not make a difference. I have since refused.

    He chooses me as his support system because he insists he has no family, though he used to live with his brother and his family before we got together. I cannot be his support system, I've said, but I feel obligated to maintain contact because of our toddler together.

    (Hopeless?)
    I too now feel I have suffered from the situation -that I fear mental illness for myself. I have returned to my family and friends in another town and I'm trying to piece together my life again so my child and I can have a stable and happier environment. However a phone call from him undermines a positive day. As much as I am glad to know he is safe, somewhat-sane, I fear threats of retaliation and bitterness.

    I want to help him, but it seems impossible a catch-22. When I try to help, he ends up verbally abusing me. I don't want to cut all contact because I do care and worry for him and I want to make our child available for him to speak too at the least.

    I just wish there was something out there for him a program, a friend, a person, anything and I mainly wish that he would accept it and hopefully pick-himself up.

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  35. Well, right now, im planning on becoming homeless. Now, you are prolly sitting there, reading that first sentance, thinking, why would anyone PLAN to be homeless? Well, its because i want to follow. I need to get away from the distractions of Worldly Possessions, and focus on the one thing that matters: God and his son Jesus Christ... "Matthew 8:20 - The foxes have their holes, and the birds of the air their nests, but the Son of Man has not place to rest his head"... i need to follow him fully. no distractions from housekeeping or working a job or watching tv... just me and him...

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  36. You will have to admit, Dietrich, that although you will be among the homeless, you will not truly be homeless yourself. There are many people who mingle among the homeless. If you have the ability to have and maintain a home, and only choose to not have one, then you cannot claim to be homeless. Jesus never called himself homeless. According to Him, his home was in Heaven with his Father.

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